This is the song that keeps playing in my mind. Sometimes I can’t seem to shake it, or drown it out. Grief is like that, at least it is for me. This is a loneliness that may always linger in the depth of my soul. It’s not the absence of happiness, it’s the absence of the person that was always there to share the ups and the downs. I believe that my mother is in a better place and I still talk to her…. but the echo of her voice doesn’t come back to me across the phone line. I knew that eventually this time in my life would come, I have know it for quite some time. Here’s a snippet from my journal that I wrote several years ago:
At the time I knew I was feeling morose, but I just couldn’t get over it until I put the thoughts into writing, or perhaps it was the endorphins from dark chocolate kisses, who knows? What I do know is that my grief is a solitary emotion, a whisper, a nudge, a thought…. and I know that I was given the great gift of many bonus years to enjoy my mother, I almost lost her twice before….
It doesn’t matter who you are or how many others also grieve with you, in the end each of us deal with it in our own way.
My way is to make it tangible, so the pendant below is titled “Solivagant.”
The stone, white topaz, is said to help with clearing stagnant or negative energy, purify emotions and heal the soul. It’s also used to help one find their own path….My mom would have liked that…. But I just hope it works ; )
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O Dearest Marnie~
How beautifully said, how heart-fully felt! Grief is what we feel when we lose someone we loved soooo much that their loss can never be filled…it means that we have shared great love, thousands of precious memories, and many special moments with someone who is like no other in our lives. Grief means we cared deeply, we loved with our whole heart, and that we will never forget. Cherish your grief, though it often pains and sometimes brings tears, because it means your Mom is alive and well in your heart forever and is a wonderful, radiant part of the Marnie we all love so much! Your Mom is as irreplaceable to you as you are to us! Love from your forever friend Kait
may peace be with you~ take your time…
Dearest Marnie~
Your words are so touching and remind us all that grief is a part of having lost someone so precious and irreplaceable in our lives that we miss them every day and celebrate their influence on our lives in a thousand ways for the rest of our lives. I am so grateful to your Mom for having brought you into the world as such a loving, caring, creative woman who I so precious to me and my life. May the necklace continue to radiate beautiful memories of your Mom and help soothe your grief. And may lots of dark chocolate kisses help too! Love & Healing Thoughts, Kaitlin
Thank you Aevya. It’s kind of weird that we don’t get to set a timer.
Kaitlin you are such a dear friend to always say such kind things about me…You certainly must know that I wasn’t the easy child and my mom had her work cut out for her from the moment I arrived! As for the rest, I think I’ll buy stock in the Hershey’s company because I see a lot more dark chocolate kisses in my future! Did you know that they make 60 million Hershey’s kisses a day?
Marnie, ??? I love you so very very much. I wish that I could shield you from all the pain. My heart is clinging to yours in thoughts and prayers of comfort. You are the best sister ever and you have given me more comfort than you will ever know. Thank you for all your concern and prayers. I’m sorry for your loss, our loss. Mom was…is the most loving caring person we knew. You are that to me too. I love you!!!
XOXO Bim
I know you miss her too Bren. I’m so glad you are my sister and I love you. Thanks for being there for me and especially for Dad.